Soulmates. Is there Really Only One?



A very frequent question that I am asked is, ” Are they my soulmate?”.   I feel that it is not my place to make that determination, because it is such a personal kind of bond.  Additionally, I find it hard to believe that we would be given only one chance at having that kind of relationship/bond. I have often seen people lose loved ones that they considered to be their “mate”, and then go on to form new, intense, loving bonds that they also felt could be defined as being a soulmate connection. This includes those who have survived the death of a spouse.

Truly?   I think that there are many forms of soulmates.   I do not think it is limited to just a romantic bond, but rather can also be found in special relationships with family and friends.   I am sure most everyone has someone in their lives who they just feel a deep heart connection to—-someone who you feel just understands you to your core, and vice versa.   That best friend from grade school, or the grandmother who always seemed to know what was in your mind and heart.   Personally,  without hesitation I could say I feel a soulmate kind of bond with my sister.   She is  “my person”, and I could not imagine a world without her.

So many people operate under the stress of the assumption that they only have the one chance.   I have seen heartbreak and great distress from those who believe that they have lost their only hope and opportunity—-literal belief that since they missed the bus ( such as letting someone “get away”), it means they will have no other chance at love in their lives.   This simply is not true.   Please take heart, and know that soulmates (and love!) are something that can grow and form.  When our hearts are hurting and yearning it may feel like the end, but really love is an amazing thing.   It can grow in the most unexpected places, be repaired, and even created anew.

My advice?  Keep your heart, and your mind open.  Try not to burden or restrict yourself with the mindset that there is only one possible match in a sea of millions.  Love can be found in so many places, and in many forms.

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  1. I often say, “our lives are too long, the universe too vast, and the world too full of goodness, for us to be limited to just one person. Think about how depressing and self-limiting that is. In all this wide-world, in the entirety of our lives, we’re meant for only one? That’s not romantic, it’s limiting and crushing and self-destructive. Great connections are rare, but they aren’t once in a lifetime. That connection from your past, sure, it was singular in nature, but others that are unique and special in their own way are just as possible and no less special. We cannot be self-limiting if we want to have abundance.


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